I made this post 9 years ago and I thought it was a great place to launch my next post. It is why I write. This post had everything to do with a very poorly, miscalculated relationship and that relationship opened my eyes, mind and heart. It was that brief 5 years that I finally learned that what I thought I wanted in a relationship was completely wrong. I would only repeat what I kept choosing. It is that moment where I finally valued my worth and realized what I knew I wanted. It was that moment where I decided I will no longer settle for less than I deserve, no matter how long it takes to find that other amazing person. This is hard for many women. I get it. We romanticize everything . We “think” he’s the one. We make excuses for poor behavior because in reality, we “know” the truth but don’t want to admit the mistake. It takes time to realize it won’t work. I’ve been there. If you read my blog from the beginning it’s all there. Sometimes we learn quickly and move on. Either way, you need to put YOU first before you can find that person that makes your heart “soar” NOT “sore.” The holidays are especially difficult this year. We love to gather and sometimes it fills that space of being alone. Don’t worry though, because if you are doing the work for you and making sure you understand and “know” what you finally deserve, it will come to you. I promise. The definitions don’t lie.
“There is a vast difference in “thinking” you want something and “knowing” you want something. Be careful how you choose, because one offers you doubt and questions for the rest of your life, and the other is unconditional and forever.”
Definition of knowing
(Entry 1 of 2)1: having or reflecting knowledge, information, or intelligence
Definition of thinking
(Entry 1 of 2)1: the action of using one’s mind to produce thoughts